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Giving Psychology Away
by Nancy Gonzalez, CFLE
Posted by Nancy Gonzalez | January 14, 2010
Working at NCFR, I have the privilege of reading the research in
our journals and reading a lot of books about family studiesboth
are my passion. It's really relatively rare that I read a book that is
not written for researchers and practitioners, but one that is written
especially for family useguides that families can use at home to
improve their lives. Selfhelp books are everywhere and, to be
honest and in my opinion, most of them aren't much good. I have
waded through many such books, and the disappointing ones tend
to fall into four categories:
1. Books based entirely on anecdotal experiences of the author,
which may be very well meaning, but they are not reliable
scientifically, or
2. Books that may be researchbased, but the studies cited are so
cherrypicked, usually to further some agenda, that they're of no
use, or
3. Books that are written by some shaming "expert" whose advice
is completely based on what dysfunctional people need to do to
have lives as wonderful as the expert's, or
4. Books that are excellent in terms of high quality research and
best practices, but the "help" is written in the jargon of our field
or steeped in so many $50 wordsthat they're not comprehensible to the general public.
I've stopped reading many selfhelp books. My blood pressure can't stand it.
Every now and then, I come across one that is evidencebased yet written in language that is readable
to a typical high school graduate. I've read such a book lately. It's called Strong Families, Successful
Students: Helping Teenagers Reach Their Full Potential by NCFR member Stephen Gavazzi (pictured).
What a reader will find surprising right away is that although the title lets the reader know that academic
development is the goal, it's not a collection of the usual tiresome litany of rules, rules, rules that
parents must enforce (which in my experience, as a mother, just makes for a lot of yelling.) Gavazzi
zeroes in on the source of academic successthe family relationships... that if families use their
strengths and work together, they can build a foundation that makes the rest possible. In lieu of the
fingerwagging expert, Gavazzi tells families that they are experts in their own families. It's not
anecdotalDr. Gavazzi is an experienced therapist and scholar. And although he's a professor at Ohio
State, the book is not remote and professorial. In factthe language is so understandable, that I had to
�stop after a chapter or so and switch gears. I'm used to reading material at a much higher levelI had to
imagine reading it if I didn't know anything about our field. It was a refreshing change.
The book takes a family through an educational therapeutic process that many families can perform at
home on their own. This is important to me, because what many people ask of families is to "go seek
professional help." Sometimes "professional help" just isn't there. Sometimes those of us in the
academic community forget that we tend to have health insurance and tend to live in population centers
with therapists close by. I grew up in northern Minnesota where even Lewis and Clark didn't go. When I
was in high school, there was one itinerant therapist who served several small towns within a two hour
radius. In addition, there is an estimated 45 47 million Americans who do not have health insurance
it's very likely that even fewer have access to family therapy. I heard on Minnesota Public Radio just
yesterday that 20% of homeowners are "upside down" on their mortgages. We're coming out of a
devastating recession. If typical families can find some help in an inexpensive paperback, I'm all for it.
This is not the book to help families dealing with severe pathology. Clearly there are many "don't try this
at home" situations. But as Gavazzi says, this book is for "good enough" families who could use some
help in improving communication and setting the stage for a healthier family. And healthy families are
the basis for optimal academic development.
Although I said the book is not anecdotal (in the scientific sense), it has some charming anecdotes
more like parablesthat introduce a principle and then illustrate it in a real life example. I won't be a
spoiler and quote any of them, because I want readers to be surprised by laughter, as I was.
This is what I wish more scholars would dogive psychology awayor at least make it accessible and
affordable. Check it out.
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The "Good Divorce," relationship dissolution and
child wellbeing
By Nancy Gonzalez, CFLE
Posted by Nancy Gonzalez | December 07, 2011
One of the most highlyresearched and controversial areas of
family studies is that of divorce and relationship dissolution. This
situation is especially important where child wellbeing is
concerned. A fabulous new issue of our scholarly journal, Family
Relations, has a special issue on this topic for December 2011. I'd
like to make NCFR members aware of it in case they don't receive
this journal and to invite nonNCFR members to join and get online
access to it right away. It contains some of the most compelling
readings available on The 'Good' Divorce, Stepfamilies, SameSex
Couples, Cohabitation, and a final section on Shifting Definitions of Family.
The authors are scholars with "who's who" familiarity in the field. The table of contents is here:
Reconsidering the "Good Divorce" By Paul R. Amato, Jennifer B. Kane and Spencer James
Commentary on "Reconsidering the 'Good Divorce'" by Paul Amato et al., By Jan Pryor
Commentary on "Reconsidering the 'Good Divorce'" By Constance R. Ahrons
Parenting Stress, Perceived Child Regard, and Depressive Symptoms Among Stepmothers
and Biological Mothers By Danielle N. Shapiro and Abigail J. Stewart
The Processes Distinguishing Stable from Unstable Stepfamily Couples: A Qualitative
Analysis By MarieChristine SaintJacques, Caroline Robitaille, Élisabeth Godbout, Claudine
Parent, Sylvie Drapeau and MarieHelene Gagne
SameSex Relationships and Dissolution: The Connection Between Heteronormativity and
Homonormativity By Brad Van EedenMoorefield, Christopher R. Martell, Mark Williams and
Marilyn Preston
Family Characteristics, Custody Arrangements, and Adolescent Psychological Wellbeing
after Lesbian Mothers Break Up By Nanette Gartrell, Henny Bos, Heidi Peyser, Amalia Deck and
Carla Rodas
RelationshipSpecific Investments, Family Chaos, and Cohabitation Dissolution Following a
Nonmarital Birth By Claire M. Kamp Dush
The Specter of Divorce: Views From Working and MiddleClass Cohabitors By Amanda J.
Miller, Sharon Sassler and Dela KusiAppouh
�Nonmarital Unions, Family Definitions, and Custody Decision Making By Mellisa Holtzman
Bound by Children: Intermittent Cohabitation and Living Together Apart By Caitlin Cross
Barnet, Andrew Cherlin and Linda Burton
Understanding the Disproportionately Low Marriage Rate Among African Americans: An
Amalgam of Sociological and Psychological Constraints By Anthony L. Chambers and Aliza
Kravitz
I'd love to give a comprehensive overview of the entire issue, but that is too much for a blog. But allow
me to quote from the introduction of this special issue written by guest editor, Marilyn Coleman:
What is clear from recent surveys is that how people ''do'' family in the United States has changed
dramatically, which is followed by changing opinions about these ''new families.'' We know very little,
however, about what happens when the adults in these new families break up. Even in the relatively
simple case of legal divorce (if divorce could ever be considered simple), there is tremendous
disagreement regarding dissolution outcomes, at least for children. This can be seen in the article by
[Paul] Amato and colleagues in this issue as well as in the replies by [Jan] Pryor, who mostly agrees
with Amato, and [Constance] Ahrons, who mostly does not agree with him.
This type of pointcounterpoint is something that NCFR members love, as measured by surveys results
we receive from the membership. The rest of the collection steps away from the familiar territory and
into diverse types of family formations for which normsand lawsare breaking new ground. The legal
structures for samesex parents as well stepfamilies makes relationship dissolution an ambiguous road
for parents, partners and children. Interpersonally, the boundary ambiguities in the family are many.
Much more research is needed on these families.
NCFR membersthis issue of Family Relations is a mustread. Not an NCFR member? Or would you
like to upgrade your membership to include Family Relations? Visit our membership page at:
http://www.ncfr.org/membership .
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Intergenerational caregiving impacting relative
relationships
Toni Hill, University of NebraskaKearney
Posted by Toni Hill | August 19, 2011
Toni Hill, Ph.D., is an Assistant Professor of Family Studies at the
University of NebraskaKearney. She currently teaches courses
focused on intimate relationships and aging.
Fall is a special time for many families, especially family caregivers.
Since 1994, when the National Family Care Givers Association
began a formal recognition program, many Americans have taken
time to celebrate and recognize the more than 65 million family
caregivers in this country. In 1997, President Bill Clinton was the
first president to sign the now annual presidential proclamation
declaring every November as National Family Caregiver Month.
The National Family Caregivers Association and other groups use
this time to increase awareness and support for family members
providing vital care to relatives.
"The true strength of the American family finds its roots in an unwavering commitment to care for one
another."
President Barack Obama, 2009 National Family Caregivers Proclamation
Defining family is very difficult. I regularly give the task of defining family to university students. On the
surface, the task seems simple. The once smiling students often return to the next class period looking
perplexed. To add to their confusion, I often read from White and Klein's Family Theories book (2002) a
list of family types to challenge the student's often narrow or incomplete definitions of family. As
Bogenschneider noted in her book, Family Policy Matters (2002), trying to identify one definition of
family does not work, especially with no legal definition of family existing in the U.S. Constitution or in
many federal and state statues. Lamanna, Riedmann, and other researchers have noted the complexity
of trying to define relationships that exist within families.
Familial relationships are dynamic and changing as are family memberships. Parentchild relationships
continually change over time with caretaking responsibilities typically being reduced as the child enters
adulthood. This article explores issues related to the various forms of family caregiving and the impact
on intergenerational relationships.
"There are only four kinds of people in this world: Those who have been caregivers; Those who
currently are caregivers; Those who will be caregivers; Those who will need caregivers."
Former First Lady Rosalyn Carter, Helping Yourself Help Others (1994), page 3.
�Caregiving
Most people have or will be impacted by caregiving issues. There are varying needs for both the
caregiver and the recipient of care. Many types of caregivers provide many types of care. Family
members provide care for a myriad of mental and physical disabilities or limitations. Family caregivers
provide care across the continuum from critical care to infrequent instrumental care. They often provide
care regardless of their income, education, or their own health issues.
Research on caregiving generally treats caregiving and care receiving as distinct and separate
constructs. Hagerty, Lingler et al (2008) noted this separation and that care is often examined as
unidirectional with care going from the caregiver to the recipient. It is important to note family caregiving
is fundamentally relational and often reciprocal including complex and overlapping components.
Numerous studies exist on caregiver stress and distress as well as caregiver burdens, conflicts,
obligations, and resentments. Far fewer studies have examined the interpersonal relationship between
the family caregiver and the care recipient. Caregiving and care receiving have often been explored
independently.
Obligations
Family caregiving has relational issues at the core with social norms governing how family members
interact. Morgan and Kunkel in their book, Aging, Society, and the Life Course (2007), note several
areas of influence on familial interactions, including the specific role of the relationship on the family. A
married couple operates under different social norms than a parentchild dyad. Social class, race,
ethnicity, religion, and geography also influence familial norms as does the individualism of each family.
Many issues impact a family's level of responsibility to provide care.
Morgan and Kunkel identify the dynamic of independence or dependence and voluntarism or obligation.
In this country, there is an expectation of generational independence. Adult children are expected to live
independent of their parents and other relatives. There is a concern that elderly parents are a burden if
they are living with their children, and reversely there is assumption there is something wrong if adult
children return to their parents' home. While there can be reciprocity across the generations, there is a
societal expectation that there is a separation of households and responsibilities. The greater society
places a sense of obligation on family to care for other family members, however, if the need arises.
Thus, the idea of voluntarily caring for a relative is not the societal norm. Complicated family
relationships can be further complicated by caregiving responsibilities or obligations.
Parental caregiving
Many parents face challenges in parenting. Caregiving is an expectation until the child is launched into
college, job, marriage, or leaves the nest.
Parents of children with disabilities or limitations often face different challenges. Whether a child does
or does not have limitations, parents can expect different challenges at different developmental
changes. Ask any a parent of a toddler asserting his/her independence how many times they have
heard the common retort, I can do it myself.
Erik Erickson and others highlighted the developmental stages and changes that occur as a child ages.
Parental responses and responsibility look different over the child's life course, and parental
expectations and involvement look different from toddler to adolescent. A friend relayed a story of
secretly watching her severely asthmatic child walk home from school because he wanted to do it
himself. Fortunately, it only took one slow and painful walk home for him to realize he could not walk the
distance. Parents must balance a child's need and desire for independence with their obligation to
provide adequate care, supervision, and guidance.
�Spousal caregiving
There are an increasing number of spouses providing care to their partners. Spousal care needs may
derive from a variety of sources including work accidents, diseases, or aging aliments. The military wars
have increased the number of disabled veterans and correspondently the number of spousal and family
caregivers.
Depending on the nature of the care needs, spousal caregivers may experience a loss in the marital
relationship. Lindsey Davis et al (2011) found that spousal caregivers reported varied relational losses.
Some caregivers reported loss of the intimate connection or the loss of a shared future. Tension was
reported based on the care recipient's inability to be a partner in decisions.
Researcher Hill (see "Spousal caregiving in later life: Predictors and consequences"; FF 48, Spring
2011) noted the impact of spousal caretaking on the caregiver. In her study, Hill found spousal
caregivers to be older, with worst health, and possess lower incomes when compared to noncaregivers.
Unlike other populations, older spousal caregivers can reasonably expect to need care themselves.
Reverse generation caregiving
As the population ages, so does the number of elders needing care. According to the U.S. Census
(20052009), there are over 52 million citizens 60 years of age and older. Increasingly adult children
are caring for their aging or ill parents.
There is a delicate balance between respecting an elderly parent as both a parent and as an adult. The
adult children providing care in some cases need to become like a parent to their parent. As with a
traditional parentchild relationship, there is an expectation that the adult child be largely responsible for
an aging or ailing parent. Society often questions the family if an elder wanders away from home or
suffers an injury. I personally know the pain of suspecting then receiving medical confirmation that a
parent can no longer make independent decisions about cooking, driving, or other personal issues.
Many others experience this every day.
Sibling, same generation caregiving
Many adult children are also called upon to care for an adult sibling. I am inspired by family friends who
split care taking responsibilities for a developmentally disabled sister across several households and
across several states. The sister now in her 50's has her own place and space in the homes of several
siblings who collectively coordinate her daily needs. The siblings made the decision to remove their
sister from institutional care after concerns about her lack of progress and several unexplained
infections.
The siblings report improvement in all areas including their sister's demeanor. Caretaking siblings may
have to parent their brother or sister and this parental responsibility may impact or alter relations with
other siblings, the parents, or other relatives. In home care is not for every family especially siblings still
raising their own children. Research shows home care is often the most cost effective for both families
and society.
Skippedgeneration caregiving
According to Generations United and the U.S. Census (20052009), approximately 4.8 million children
live with grandparents. Although some of these households also include the parents, many do not. My
research area focuses on relative or kinship caregivers including grandparents caring for grandchildren.
The reasons for kinship care vary. Parental absence can be attributed to benevolent or maladaptive
reasons. A parent's decision to leave their child with the grandparents and move to another city in
search of better work or educational opportunities is in contrast to another parent's decision to leave a
child with the grandparents for entertainment or socialization activities.
�Gibson (2002, 2005) and other researchers have explored changes in family dynamics by virtue of the
parent being missing or absent. This skipped generation still has an impact on the family. Many children
may experience issues of ambiguous loss or split loyalty. The caregivers because they are family
members may experience a variety of emotions from pride and joy to anger, guilt, or shame. Often
grandparent caregivers must balance protection and advocacy for the child with respect for the parents.
The child's parents, the skipped generation may experience quilt regardless of the reason for their
absence.
Multiple Generation, Intergenerational Caregiving
Commonly referred to as the "sandwich generation" of caregivers, these are caregivers providing care
for children and parents simultaneously. By definition an intergenerational household includes three or
more generations.
There are also individuals providing care for their partners, parents, and children. The dynamics
impacting the generations are complex. The middle generation must struggle with parenting
responsibilities for possibly two generations and balancing personal resources to meet varied needs.
Resentment can result across the generations as each competes for limited resources.
Conclusions
It is important that family researchers and practitioners stay informed about the varied forms of care
needs and of caregiving within families. The issues of care and caregiving are multifaceted. Complexity
is increased when generational issues are a component. Central to the examination of the issue is the
interconnection of care giving and care receiving. Care responsibilities can and often alter family
relationships. Professionals working with and for families must be sensitive to the needs of both the
giver and receiver of care.
The purpose of this examination is not to define the best type of care, caregiver, or even where such
care should occur. Simply highlighting the increasing complexity of care needs and caregiving is the
primary purpose. Millions of relatives engaged in caregiving across multiple generations need and
deserve a clearly focused research and policy agenda.
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Interpreting a fatherhood legacy
William Marsiglio, Ph.D.
Posted by Nancy Gonzalez | June 05, 2012
Back in 1995, when I published my first book on fatherhood, I wrote
these words in my preface: “The last person I would like to
acknowledge is my father, Domenick Marsiglio. It is unlikely that
this project would have seen the light of day if I had not adopted the
disciplined and hardworking lifestyle he modeled for me. It brings
me much pleasure, then, to dedicate this volume on fatherhood to
my own loving father. Thank you Dad!”
A career tribute
Now, seventeen years and numerous fatherhood publications later,
I am in the unique position to extend a careerbased tribute to my
dad on what is an inauspicious Father’s Day for my family. In
March, my dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer. Father’s Day
2012 is most likely the last time he will celebrate the holiday. To
complicate matters, his dementia will limit his ability to remember
much if any of what I might say or do on this, or any day. On the bright side, my mother will remember.
My dad, a bluecollar guy to the core, never gave me a shred of academic advice. But whatever career
success I’ve achieved as a fatherhood scholar can in no small measure be attributed to the lessons I
gleaned from him at an early age about the value of hard work and accountability. Like many kids from
traditional male breadwinner homes, my stayathome mom instilled my parents’ shared values. Aside
from receiving some oneonone mentoring through sports, and observational learning, I came to know
Dad’s values via Mom’s handson parenting. Yet, as a boy, I sought his approval, not her’s.
In my most recent book, Nurturing Dads, Kevin Roy and I champion a very different kind of father than
my dad was to me. The nurturing dad, as represented in the scholarly literature and pop culture, is
attentive and responsive to a child’s assorted developmental needs. He commits himself as much to
developing an intimate bond with his child through regular handson care as he does to providing
financially for him or her.
Most of the nurturance I associate with Dad is rooted in what Mom did on his behalf. On some level I
realized her hugs, kisses, “I love you’s,” and caregiving channeled Dad’s silent sentiments.
Unfortunately, my dad and I were constrained by the boy code of masculinity that led me at a young
age to replace his goodnight cuddling with firm handshakes. Not until my late20s did I challenge Dad
to reintroduce hugging into our “hello” and “goodbye” rituals.
So, in reality, my mom—like many other mothers—deserves heartfelt accolades this Fathers’ Day.
She did her best to encourage Dad to reach out to me so that I might know his love firsthand.
�What's in a name?
My transition into laterlife fatherhood and middle age led me to embrace more fully the joys of being a
nurturing dad. A revelation about the intergenerational transmission of familial identity added a twist to
my notion of ideal fathering.
When my immigrant grandparents married and had children during the 1910s and 20s, they altered the
proper Italian pronunciation of Marsiglio by using a hard rather than a silent “g” to ease their family’s
assimilation into the American mainstream. My father, then I, adopted the compromised pronunciation
with little thought.
But sometime during my youngest son’s (Phoenix) infancy, I pondered my longstanding affinity with
Dad. Surprisingly, I emerged with a newfound appreciation for the gendered legacy I feel about our
shared sir name. Reflecting back to my youth, I recalled seeing Dad’s stoic face brighten when others
invoked the Italian enunciated Marsiglio (Marseeleeoh). Maybe it did mean something special to him;
he never “corrected” them.
For me, the Italian pronunciation symbolically reflects the kind of authenticity I value and want to pass
on to Phoenix. Although Dad didn’t explicitly resist the Americanized pronunciation of his surname, the
Italian rendition resonated with him and he was an honest, sincere man. Thus, in his honor, and to
show deference to the fathers on his side of my DNA tree, I chose a few years ago to be a generative
dad by reclaiming for myself and sharing my real family name with Phoenix. Dad’s name and spirit will
live on. I love you Dad!
Share your thoughts
Posted by Anonymous | June 11, 2012 6:41pm.
Dear Dr. Marsiglio(Bill),
Just to let you know how much I enjoyed your comments about yourown father.
I happened to have a father who was very affectionate and caring, which was out of the ordinary at the time of
my youth. Of course, I was one of four girls, so it may have been different if he had had any sons
Earlier in my career I was involved in writing about men in families and no doubt, that inspiration came
from my blue collar father.
I am sure your father is very proud of you. Thanks for sharing this piece.
Shirley Hanson
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JMF "Decade in Review"
Order this classic today for your classroom or your personal library
Posted by Charles Cheesebrough | May 26, 2011
"Decade in Review" Journal of Marriage and
Family
We have had inquiries here at NCFR headquarters about using this
issue of the journal for a classroom text or purchasing it for your
personal library.
Yes, it's available! And it's affordable (individual copies are $29.50;
discounts for multiple copiessee details below). Contact Wiley
Blackwell, the journal publisher, to order copies: 8008356770
Check out this table of contents:
• Demographic Trends in the United States: A Review of Research in the 2000s by Andrew Cherlin
• Filling the Glass: Gender Perspectives on Families by Myra Marx Ferree
• Critical Race Theories, Colorism, and the Decade's Research on Families of Color by Linda M.
Burton, Eduardo BonillaSilva, Victor Ray, Rose Buckelew, and Elizabeth Hordge Freeman
• Poverty and the American Family: A Decade in Review by Kathryn Edin and Rebecca Joyce
Kissane
• Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Families by Timothy J. Biblarz and Evren Savci
• Connecting Complex Processes: A Decade of Research on Immigrant Families by Jennifer E.
Glick
• "Families" in International Context: Comparing Institutional Effects across Western Societies by
Lynn Prince Cooke and Janeen Baxter
• Family Risk and Resilience in the Context of War and Terrorism by Shelley M. MacDermid
Wadsworth
• Partnering Across the Life Course: Sex, Relationships, and Mate Selection by Sharon Sassler
• Diversity in Pathways to Parenthood: Patterns, Implications, and Emerging Research Directions by
Pamela J. Smock and Fiona Rose Greenland
• Families with Children and Adolescents: A Review, Critique, and Future Agenda by Robert
Crosnoe and Shannon E. Cavanagh
• Parenthood, Childlessness, and Wellbeing: A Life Course Perspective by Debra Umberson,
Tetyana Pudrovska, and Corinne Reczek
• Marriage in the New Millennium: A Decade in Review by Frank D. Fincham and Steven H. Beach
• Research on Divorce: Continuing Trends and New Developments by Paul R. Amato
• Remarriage and Stepfamilies: Strategic Sites for Family Scholarship in the 21st Century by Megan
M. Sweeney
�• Socioeconomic Status, Family Processes, and Individual Development by Rand D. Conger,
Katherine J. Conger, and Monica J. Martin
• Work and Family Research in the First Decade of the 21st Century by Suzanne M. Bianchi and
Melissa A. Milkie
• Conflict, Power, and Violence in Families by Kristin L. Anderson
• Advances in Families and Health Research in the 21st Century by Deborah Carr and Kristen W.
Springer
• Biosocial Influences on the Family: A Decade Review by Brian M. D'Onofrio and Benjamin B.
Lahey
• Family Policy: Becoming a Field of Inquiry and Subfield of Social Policy by Karen Bogenschneider
and Thomas Corbett
This special Journal of Marriage and Family June 2010 edition can be ordered from the WileyBlackwell
customer service department at 8008356770 by any individual for $29.50 per copy or by discounted
quantity. Requests will need to specify that this is for Volume 72, Issue 3, of the journal.
Bookstores can order in bulk at a 20% discount. Issues will then be shipped to the bookstore's address.
If the professor orders for a class, the price is also discounted, and copies will be delivered to the
professor at their institution (not individual addresses). Orders will be taken by credit card only. Order
early since delivery is approximately one month after order date. Please note that no returns on
journal orders are accepted. Due to contractual agreement with our publisher, these journals are not
available through NCFR. They must be ordered via our publisher, WileyBlackwell.
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Join the NCFR Book Club read about Military
Families
Posted by Nancy Gonzalez | July 10, 2012
The NCFR Book Club is back! Take advantage of this free
opportunity for professional development. This summer we will be
reading Serving Military Families in the 21st Century by Karen
Blaisure, Tara SaathoffWells, Angela Pereira, Shelley MacDermid
Wadsworth and Amy Laura Dombro. Simply order it, read it and we
will discuss it via a one hour conference call in late September. One
of the authors will join the discussion as well.
Interested? Please write NCFR staff member Nancy Gonzalez to
express interest at nancygonzalez@ncfr.org.
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Just when you think you've seen everything
zombie preparedness?
By Nancy Gonzalez, CFLE
Posted by Nancy Gonzalez | May 31, 2011
A stunning and extraordinary event occurred at the Centers for
Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) a few days ago. Their
social media gurus launched a bizarre campaign to prepare for a
Zombie Apocalypse. I am not making this up.
The site "went viral" and experienced such an overwhelming
response, that their server crashed temporarily. Their Twitter feed
catapulted into a huge trend as well. If their purpose was to
generate interest, it was a tremendous success. Quoting the
campaign,
"Preparedness 101: Zombie Apocalypse
There are all kinds of emergencies out there that we can prepare for. Take a zombie apocalypse
for example. That's right, I said zombie apocalypse. You may laugh now, but when it
happens you'll be happy you read this, and hey, maybe you'll even learn a thing or two about
how to prepare for a real emergency."
It took a lot of courage for this agency to use gutbusting humor to raise awareness in emergency
preparedness. I can just imagine the staff meeting where this idea was cooked up. It could be a way to
reach a whole new populationand a huge one. Or it could have been a PR disaster and made the
CDC into a laughing stock. But someone knew the social media culture, took the chance, and now the
CDC is known for disaster preparedness by throngs of Americans who may not have known where
such information exists. According to a May 20 blog post in the Wall Street Journal, "as of [May 20], the
CDC reported the post advising people to stock up on food and water and first aid supplies to survive
a zombie attack had gotten nearly 1.2 million page views, compared to about 1,000 to 3,000 hits a
CDC blog post usually gets over its entire lifespan of 10 days or so." The site contains buttons to click
on for "real" preparedness information and free logos for the public to use. Here's one:
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And one of the most impressive facts about this effort, says the CDC, is that the campaign "cost zero."
A marketer's dream.
It won't end here. The CDC is sponsoring a video contest "Preparedness 101: Zombie Apocalypse."
They say on the website that information about the contest is forthcoming. YouTube is bound to be
replete with Zombie advice very soon.
So the question remains for other agencies that need to get the word outwhat is the risk vs. reward?
Has this idea been used once now and it would fall flat next time? Or should lifesaving information find
its way to the public in unique ways if necessary? I'd love to hear your thoughts. Post a comment.
Share your thoughts
Posted by Anonymous | May 31, 2011 11:45am.
Is a session on this topic planned for Orlando? It might boost attendance?
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Let's talk about unemployment
by Carolyn Wright, Ph.D.
Posted by Carolyn Wright | September 29, 2011
I'm unemployed. I know I'm not alone. Even though I have a doctorate and 20 years of
experience as a Marriage and Family Therapist, I haven't been able to find a job in
some time. Back when my mentor told me I had passed the doctoral examination, she
said that I would have a permanent credentialone that no one could take away from
me. She was right. I do have the credential. Now where is the job? My mentor couldn't
possibly have foreseen the fact that I would be headed out into the market in the worst
economic climate since the Great Depression.
I have taught at the collegiate level for seven years, across New York state. I know that I have skills I
have built from these experiences and, thanks to my Ph.D., I can demonstrate that I'm smart. I have a
specialtyI am a systemic therapist. I have skills like being an AAMFT supervisor that are truly unique.
And I know that I am good at what I do. Yet it is difficult to maintain the morale needed to stay in the
game when the game has gone into extra innings.
Sometimes others have gotten the job because they "know someone" that I don't know. Sometimes it is
the "timing." Many times I, and probably scores of people vying for the same job, are left to wonder
what specific changes we could make to have been more competitive.
I have my writing ability, rich life experiences, and the maturity that is only available from an older
worker. I have administrative skills. I am dependable, a teamplayer, and punctualno, make that early! I
have great empathy and many people skills. I am a supervisor who doesn't need supervision. Those
things are important to me...and will be, hopefully, to an employer. I maintain my NCFR membership so
that I am plugged into my professional association. And I have four children, all adults now. Raising four
decent human beings is my best accomplishment.
I will find a job. But it has been way too long. So I will go on interviewing, writing and sending out my
vitas. I do know a job will pop up someplace. Then I will look back and say, "OK, I learned a lot about
money and unemployment. What is next for me to learn?"
Are you an NCFR member who has been unemployed? What has been helpful in keeping your morale
high? Did you just find a job after a period of frustrating unemployment? Please post a comment and
tell me what you have learned.
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I'm unemployed. I know I'm not alone. Even though I have a doctorate and 20 years of experience as a Marriage and Family Therapist, I haven't been able to find a job in some time. Back when my mentor told me I had passed the doctoral examination, she said that I would have a permanent credential-one that no one could take away from me. She was right. I do have the credential. Now where is the job? My mentor couldn't possibly have foreseen the fact that I would be headed out into the market in the worst economic climate since the Great Depression.
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NCFR Book Club is on!
By Nancy Gonzalez, CFLE
Posted by Nancy Gonzalez | May 24, 2011
New NCFR book club is on! Over the summer, we are going to be
reading NCFR member Richard Settersten's new book, Not Quite
Adults: Why Twenty Somethings are choosing a Slower Path to
Adulthood and Why it's Good for Everyone. We've all noticed the
trendyoung adults are reaching the traditional markers of
adulthood at their own pace. Settersten explains why, why we
shouldn't be alarmed and even how "Helicopter Parents" are not a
bad thing. We will read this book over the summer and schedule a
one hour discussion in September or October with a visit with Dr.
Settersten. It's a paperback and reasonably priced. Please email
nancygonzalez@ncfr.org to sign up! You do not have to be an NCFR member to participate.
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NCFR members at the United Nations
Posted by Charles Cheesebrough | May 31, 2011
Mihaela Robila, Bahira Sherif Trask, and Karen Bogenschneider
participated in a UN Expert Group Meeting, "Assessing Family
Policies," at the United Nations, June 13.
Mihaela, along with Marilyn Bensman, represents NCFR at the
United Nations. She is an associate professor in family sciences,
Queens College, CUNY.
Bahira was invited to speak after meeting Marilyn at the NCFR
2010 Annual Conference. Bahira is professor of human
development and family studies at the University of Delaware.
Karen was a major speaker at the annual conference, leading a
special session "Innovations in EvidenceBased Policy Making." She is a professor of human ecology
at the University of Wisconsin.
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